We all know that Face Book is a social medium, in which, we can all rally to the posts, comments, memes, pictures, thoughts, rants, blogs, music, art and sometimes, a political cause or two.
With this said, we ALL have an opinion. We ALL have thought and free will. We can choose to align ourselves with the click of a button. So too, can we just scroll on without a second look with the ideas, ideals or concepts that we disagree with. It’s what’s known as free thought and choice.
If you disagree with me or my opinion, you are free to speak up and comment to the affirmative or negative. You are a free thinker and capable of making a decision to agree or disagree.
We all know that my page has seen some risky thoughts, both on religion, politics, equality, cultural affiliation and that will not change. What will also not change, is your ability to read and agree, or read and disagree. That is the beauty of free speech. Just because I say something doesn’t mean you have to like it or even read all of it. BUT, if you do and you like or agree with it, you can show it by commenting or clicking that little like button. Or, scroll on past it, or even unfollow me. It’s so neat how technology allows us to do so many things from the safety of our homes, offices, phones and bathrooms, with a variety of emotions.
I cherish the friendships I have forged over the lifetime I have been on planet earth. I also value the opinions of a great many real life friends I have made during my years in this life. As technology continues to shrink our planet and create a very small world, remember, you and I are connected…By one or two things. Either I know you from personal contact, in real life, or from Face Book.
Also remember, I maintain a very non traditional opinion on a great many ideas and causes. I don’t ask you to agree with or disagree with me. But, if what I say seems out of character for me, or the person you “think” you know or knew at one time, please be aware, I am constantly changing and evolving in my life. I am not the same person you grew up with, knew in one timeline or another. But, I will always be grateful for the time I got to spend with you and you must have made an impression on me either personally or by proxy (because you know someone I know).
With that said, I must confess some things…
I grew up as a Christian My father was active Army and also involved with the church. He was even a pastor a couple of times in some churches during my youth. I was exposed to the ideals and concepts of traditional evangelical Christianity. I was fed Bible history and scriptures at a very young age. I attended some private schools (Christian), some public (always a new kid) and was always involved in church, either as a drummer or with my family. I even helped teach children’s church a few times. I was a preacher’s kid, I had certain expectations to live up to.
My religious upbringing was very strict. I was not allowed to decide for myself what religion or indoctrination I wanted for myself (sorry family, this is a touchy subject). It was church or church. There was no middle ground. So, as a young teen, I began a serious rebellion and continued into my adulthood. I began searching for answers to the questions that you weren’t allowed to ask in church. I began to wonder why I was being taught to hate, or judge others for their decisions. When I began to find the answers I sought, it was with alternative spirituality. I read the Anton LaVey bible (yeah, I know, horrible choice)…when I figured out what it was that scares so many, it became a seek and find mission to locate the information that suited my own relationship with divinity.
I found others that had also been seeking and finding on their own and discovered, I was not alone in this world. It wasn’t a unique issue to want to find answers to which I didn’t even know the question. Eventually, I was led to, by my own search and the pushes I was getting from friends, to Paganism. Yes, I said Paganism. I know you must be totally shocked by this admission and shaking your head, but bear with me please. With Paganism, I found a relatively decent explanation to why I felt the way I did throughout my life. The questions, the thoughts, the different ideals I had for myself, as opposed to what I was taught (because, my teaching in the church never sat well with my personal morals). I didn’t appreciate being directed into a relationship with a god that I saw so many people blaming for everything or demanding that he do things for them etc. I didn’t desire to be a hypocrite like what I saw in traditional churches.
Now, after almost 25 years of being a “seeker” of alternative spirituality, I have discovered a few things I feel I must share.
Not everyone that says they believe in something is really a believer. Some say what they do, to gain your trust, only to stab you in the back when you’re not looking. Some will align with your opinions, only to bash them when your back is turned. But, that has nothing to do with spirituality at all! That is just human nature. We, as a species, are very nasty beings at our core. Sure, we all have some morality, scruples or good characteristics in us, but, at the very base nature of our genetic code, we have a flaw intwined with our DNA. It’s called conformity. If we find something we believe in, hard steadfastly, we expect everyone else to go hard with us. That’s not how that works. Sure, you can find several examples of churches, pagan circles, temples, sanctuaries and other religious or even spiritual places that abide an ideal or two that seem like your own, but in the end, if you don’t tow the line, like the ones that conceived the spirituality/doctrine, you will be tossed out in the cold faster than you can spit. It happens.
Hell, if I know my friends list, there will be some support of my words yet others will condemn my open speech, I will be judged, called names or even “burned” socially for my viewpoints. Again, it’s our nature, to conform or be cast out.
I have blogged for a little while, much less time than I wish. But, I have been alive for 43 years and have seen a LOT more than some will ever get the opportunity to witness. I’ve been to Europe, Iraq, Afghanistan and all over the United States of America. I have come into contact with all sorts of people, beliefs, education levels, criminal elements, political viewpoints, spiritual beliefs (mainstream and non), genders, transgender, homosexual, heterosexual, ALL types. I have broken bread with preachers, politicians, generals and regular folk. I have conversed with Christians, Buddhists, Hindus, Pagans, Muslims (to include clerics), I’ve been in drum circles with conflicting points of view and different political affiliations. But, none of that even matters. Why? Because of something I have learned over time. That is, we are ALL the same. No, we don’t all look the same, or sound the same or even smell the same, but, at our very core, our DNA is alike. We are all flawed and are incapable of perfection.
So. With that said, I must stand aside and allow my fellow human race come to their own realization on their own. I must never presume to learn a lesson for my brother or sister. I must allow mistakes to be made without interference, I must keep silent when my words may cause conflict. I must be at peace with my fellow humans, even when they and I cannot abide the other in proximity to one another (this means tolerance). I must adopt a moral compass that keeps MY morals pointed in the direction that is best for ME, but remember that not everyone has the same compass as I do. It must never become a fight to value one over another life, yet, I should stand up for the weak and sick, reach out to the destitute and homeless. I should protect those with no defense and secure my own family. THIS, I should do on a daily basis.
So, after all of this, I hope I reach out to anyone and these words are not disregarded as rambling, that someone, somehow, will identify with my thoughts.